At what point in our lives do we become too old for certain things? Little kids are allowed to do a lot of things because that’s what they are: KIDS. But as they become older, naturally it is expected that they stop doing some of those things that marked them out as kids. For example, when a 4 year old girl plays with her dolls; it’s okay. But when a 17 year old teenager plays with dolls, it’s really strange. Also when we see a 4 month old baby sucking on his thumb, we go all soft and we smile because he looks cute. But imagine seeing a 10 year old boy doing the same thing; he’ll always (yeah, always) get stares filled with disgust and comments like, “Aren’t you too old to be doing that?”
Life is essentially made of different phases and each phase is known for certain behaviours. For example, teenagers are known to be hot-headed (not to mention hot-blooded). They are at that stage where they want to experiment with things good, bad and the downright dangerous. And as they leave that stage for the next, which is adulthood, some do so with their heads intact. Others are not so fortunate and live with the scabs and scars of their ill-advised misadventures.
It is necessary that as we move to the next phase of life, certain habits that characterised the former stage should never find their way to the next stage. For instance, it’s not in adulthood that a grown man would start learning how to smoke cigarettes. Imagine a 35 year old man doing that! People would look at him like, “Really, this is what’s on your bucket list? At this stage of your life? What did you do when you were a teenager?” Not that I’m saying all teenagers should smoke, but you know what I’m saying. And that reminds me of that saying about “old dogs and new tricks” but more apt for that case is what my Waffi people would say, “Dem nor dey live life go back”. We live progressively and not the other way round.
Some people don’t really care about all that though. Imagine adult men exchanging blows and stabbing themselves with broken bottles at a bar, over a ‘female homo-sapien’ (as my crazy course mate used to call it back then). Or two cars parked by the side of the road, their owners raining insults on each other with their kids watching. Come on, it gets to a point where we tell ourselves that we are just too old for certain things. Even if you were the Hulk Hogan and Egbe-Wedger of your hood in those days, Haba! Just…chill.
So as you live ‘progressively’, what habits should have been dropped in the former stage, but are presently still being held on to, as if your very life depended on them? And what shameful habits should NEVER find their way into the next phase of your life, in order for you to become the better human that you strive to be? Ask yourself.