We all know what a long distance relationship is: one between two people who live in separate towns, cities or even countries. But honestly, I have always wondered about ‘that’ kind of relationship . I mean, how do they even work? I don’t know but if I was crazy about a guy, I would love to see him almost every day; hence my fascination about long distance relationships and great respect for those who are in it. You ‘guys’ rock!
Personally, I have been in one before and initially it was okay… but then as time went by, it began to get boring and sometimes even stifling and frustrating. I am by no means a relationship guru, but what I do know is that, relationships need work to make them…work. Perhaps if we had put in more effort to sustain the spark, it might (or still might not) have worked *shrugs*. What I’ll say is that a long distance relationship is not for everybody. It may or may not be for me; I don’t know. I do know that should I get into one today, I definitely be better prepared to put in my 150% to make it work. It goes without saying that my partner has to be ready to work at it also.
So like I was saying, a long distance relationship isn’t for everyone. I have a friend whom we shall call, Becky and she ended up marrying this guy with whom she had a distance relationship. He was in Lagos and she was in Benin City. Both places are not that far apart, considering; but he visited her twice while she was serving as a Youth Corper in Ekiti state. That ‘relationship’ lasted for like two years before they made it to the altar. In those two years, she visited him only twice; yes TWICE! Today they have a beautiful daughter and she has never been happier in her life.
Some relationships are better if they are long distance, and others are not. Some people prefer that their partners stay far off so they can really build anticipation for their next meeting. You know what they say about anticipation right? This group of people may not want their partner ‘all up in their face’ which might result, if both of them lived in the same city. Others prefer long distance for shady reasons, so to speak; you know what I mean, lol. The other group of people feel more comfortable if their partners live in the same city because to an extent, they would be sure there was no chance of their partners ‘sampling the entire menu’ thousands of miles away.
As in all kinds of relationships, TRUST is key, and especially so in long distance ones. A long distance relationship is neither good nor bad, and you can’t really tell if it’s good for you until you TRY it out. All in all, we should always strive to make our relationships better and more fun for ourselves and our partners. At the same time, we should allow ourselves to be open to different approaches to making our RELATIONSHIPS work.